My sister-in-law is due soon with baby #2, and it really made me take a step back and think about life with my two for the last nine months. It’s been a true whirlwind. There were so many questions I had before I met my little Aimee. First, the practical questions. How am I going to get out of the house? How am I going to take a shower? How am I going to get all that laundry done? Then of course, the more personal questions. How is my son going to react? How am I going to give equal time to each kid?
Here are the 10 things I would tell my SIL (or anyone about to have #2):
- Breathe. Your patience gets tested a lot more with having two. Breathe slowly, everything will be alright.
- Don’t set an impossible standard for yourself. It is hard being a mom and we need to realize everything is not going to be perfect all the time and that is okay.
- Put your feet up at the end of the day (and don’t feel bad about it!). If there are toys lying around and its 9pm it is okay to leave them there.
- Don’t be scared of the grocery store. You can get out with two kids, I promise. I feel when I go out with my two, I get a lot of sympathetic looks, but believe me, it’s not that bad.
- Accept help. Whenever I was checking out at the grocery store, and they ask “need any help?” I always said no. Now if I need help, I ask for it. People are happy to help out!
- Get used to being told “you sure have your hands full!” Seriously, I’ve never heard this phrase more in my life. I think in one week, I heard it 10 times. Yes, TEN TIMES! Anytime I go anywhere with the kiddos, someone looks at me and says it. What gives? When I was working for the Warriors wearing 4-inch plus heels running around the Arena with a box full or marketing material, no one said anything. I think there is something about holding a baby and having another kid on your side that makes people feel the need to make the statement. Smile and be on your way.
- Take some time for yourself. It’s a little bit harder with two to have some “me” time. Even if its just browsing through a magazine, try to do something you enjoy (even if it’s only for five minutes).
- Online shop. Even more crucial with two.
- Take pictures. It’s much harder now; I am not photographing every hour like I was with Michael, but make sure to snap some shots. These are priceless moments.
- Do whatever works for you! The nap schedule may be a little different with baby #2, or the bedtime routine may have to change. Do whatever works for you and the kiddos.
You are going to love it! And feel free to call me whenever you are having a “Charlotte” moment.
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